Sam - Anxiety, emotional unavailability, numbing, impatience.

The Breaking Point
Before this work, my life looked abundant, but I wasn’t living any of it. I was short tempered and impatient, especially with my toddler boys. I worried constantly about the future and money. I wasn’t present. I filled every quiet moment with distractions instead of the people and experiences right in front of me. I was emotionally unavailable to my wife and our relationship was starting to suffer.

When Andrew and I first spoke, he told me I was anxious. I had never heard that in my life. I remember thinking, I don’t have anxiety. Then he explained how it forms, how childhood shapes it, and everything started clicking. All the lightbulbs turned on at once.

The Search
I finally saw that I had real problems and that they were holding me back from the life I actually wanted. My relationships were feeling the weight of it. At first I wanted to change for my wife and kids. Then I realized I needed to change for me.

I was an emotionless engineer who grew up with a father who didn’t show emotion either. I didn’t think I could learn how to access any of this. I doubted I could bring up or process anything I had pushed down for so long. But I knew I couldn’t keep living the way I was.

The Work
Andrew guided me through it. And when the emotions came, they came hard. For the first time, I could actually feel what had been buried. I started releasing it instead of ignoring it.

Six months later, I’m still uncovering things, still processing, and still growing into a better human being. The changes showed up everywhere. My patience with my kids grew. My communication with my wife improved. My connection with myself finally felt real. I stopped numbing and escaping.

The Return
Now I feel amazing. Truly. I’m confident about the future and my ability to handle whatever comes. I look forward to family time. I’m present in every moment of every day. My temper is gone. I’m not worried about money anymore. I check finances once a month instead of once a week.

I’ve lost 40 pounds in six months because I finally respect myself. I stopped drinking. I stopped chewing tobacco. I exercise six times a week without forcing it. I’ve read more books in the last four months than in the last fifteen years. Ideas for new businesses are pouring out of me when I used to accept a 9 to 5 life until age 65. That thought feels impossible now. Life looks great.

Bottom line: this work is worth every penny. I had sticker shock in the beginning. Now I don’t regret a single cent. I wish I found this 20 years ago. Do it. You owe it to yourself. You owe it to your kids. You will not regret it.